I Choose Imperfect

Perfect is Enemy of Good
My perfectionist is a little girl of seven or eight. She sits on my shoulder, her perfect pigtails clipped with little pink bows. She wears a polka dot dress and shakes her finger at me.

Your office is a mess,” she says. “You should have your pencils perfectly lined up. All your books and papers are just clutter.”

“You have to know the whole strategy for your business and follow it perfectly,” she commands in my ear. “You have to attract a ton of clients right now and know the formula for success. Look at that successful person. She knows exactly what to do. You have to be like that.”

Her words make me freeze. I start spinning and spinning and don’t know which direction to go. Each thing I think of isn’t perfect enough in my little perfectionist’s eyes so I do nothing.

She wags her little finger in front of my face, daring me to have all of the right answers right now.

The endless circles my thinking brain has taken me in finally tire me out. I take a deep breath and a different way comes to mind. What if I embrace the imperfect mystery? What if I thank my little perfectionist, give her a gentle pat on her head, and feel into the messy, beautiful glory of building something from my soul’s wisdom? What if I enjoy the struggles and the uncertainty?

What if I take whatever beautiful, messy action that feels like joy to me today?

I realize that each day of glorious, muddled, risky activity adds up.

I make a nice, little pink bed for my perfectionist, thank her for her hard work and settle her into sleep.

Today I choose imperfect.


Are Screaming Monkeys Drowning Out Your Mission?

What is your mission and purpose?
I woke up at 3 a.m. last night and my monkeys were screaming. They were yelling about how useless I am and how my business isn’t as successful as it should be. They were howling in my ear that I am nothing and should just quit.

Then they really got excited and starting flinging poo, as monkeys like to do. The poo clearly signaled that I belong covered in excrement and should just go get a real job. I can’t stick to anything and am worthless. Then they screamed some more about how everyone at an upcoming meeting is going to see me as small and incompetent. My monkeys were having a grand time.

I was seized by their loud screaming and flinging for a long time and wasn’t able to get back to sleep. Eventually, a wiser voice spoke up. It was quiet and I had to work hard to hear it over all of that wailing, but I knew it was important.

You are running a business meant to help others, it said. There’s a deeper purpose to what you do.

Keep Going, it said with a deep, resonant whisper.

It said that being in business by yourself and promising the intangible is going to be hard.

Keep Going, it said.

When I took a few more peaceful breaths and listened again it said that my energy, excitement, and confidence in my business will be like a spiral. It won’t be a straight line of more and more enthusiasm, but will go up, down and around like the whorls in a sea shell.

Keep Going, it said.

Your monkeys will scream and fling poo, it said. Pet them on the head

And Keep Going.

Remember that hint of a beautiful vision you see for your business twenty years down the pike. Hold on to that.

And Keep Going.

Your work to help others is part of a bigger mission in this world, connected to all of the other beautiful souls doing their own part. It is needed.

Keep Going.


Can You Fly Above It All?

meaning transcendence above problems
The roar of the engines pushes us back in our seats. I try to peer out the small window to see our speed. We go faster and faster, knowing it’s enough, but still our minds question. When we sense we must be at the end of the runway, we finally rise in the air. I feel a sense of adventure and exhilaration throughout my body. We are flying in a metal tube, high above the earth. Feeling small in the scope of things, cut off from the world, but felling connected to each other through this shared experience. Transcendence.

I took a trip this week and I love flying, especially the take off. I hadn’t quite examined why until recently I read a book called “The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters” by Emily Esfahani Smith. In it, she puts forth 4 pillars of meaning and the last is transcendence, feeling very small yet also connected to others. This can occur on a spiritual level when you feel connected to a higher power or on a secular level when you see a beautiful sunset. It also happens to astronauts high above the Earth, viewing it from space.

Can you remember moments of transcendence in your life? Maybe viewing a stunning painting or listening to music? These moments can bring meaning to our lives, a sense of connection to others and the order of things.

Can you find time to gain more transcendent moments? Plan to watch a sunset, be out in nature, or go to a museum perhaps? These moments can be key memories that sustain us all our lives.


Can You Imagine Planning Your Day Using Your Intuition?

Do you feel stuck? Is there so much in your head and that you want to get done, but you can’t get organized enough to do it? Do you know the things you have to do but can’t seem to find the energy to do them? Or do you not even know what to do?

Let’s get planning, the Wild Practical Life way.

How to Spend Your Time

First, you only have so many hours in the day, so you can consciously decide what to do during those hours or you can let the world fling you about. Because being flung around usually isn’t very productive, let’s choose to consciously decide what to spend our time on.

Now, how to choose what to do each day? Now most people might say do what makes you the most money, or what can get you the most exposure for your business. In life, they might say to choose what will make you most productive, look the best or be the most connected. These are all choices of the ego. That’s not the Wild Practical way.

Connect to Your Inner Self

In Wild Practical planning, we first connect to our inner self, our soul, and decide what tasks we want to tackle. Connecting to your inner soul can be tricky, you have to be quiet and connected. Perhaps you’ll use meditation, check in with your body, or use oracle cards. Go through your task list while connected to your authentic, inner self, and choose the tasks that you feel the most positive and energetic about.


The tasks that your soul is telling you to choose will lead to the most joy, connection, and amazing life. Trust it.